I have been thinking about this post for while now. I didn’t know how to write it and still not look like I’m rubbing my ‘married’ status on anybody’s face. But I have finally gathered the courage to write it. This is after I stumbled upon a note I wrote back in 2011. It went like this:
A store that sells husbands has just opened in City, where a woman may go to choose a husband. Among the instructions at the entrance is a description on how the store operates. You may visit the store
There are six floors and the attributes of the men increase as the shopper ascends the flights. There is, however, a catch…………….you may choose any man from a particular floor, or you may choose to go up a floor, but you cannot go back down except to exit the building!
So, a woman goes to the Husband Store to find a husband.
On the first floor the sign on the door reads:
Floor 1 – These men have jobs and love the Lord. The second floor sign reads:
Floor 2 – These men have jobs, love the Lord, and love kids. The third floor sign reads:
Floor 3 – These men have jobs, love the Lord, love kids, and are extremely good looking.
“Wow,” she thinks, but feels compelled to keep going. She goes to the fourth floor and sign reads:
Floor 4 – These men have jobs, love the Lord, love kids, are drop-dead good looking and help with the housework.
“Oh, mercy me!” she exclaims, “I can hardly stand it!” Still, she goes to the fifth floor and sign reads:
Floor 5 – These men have jobs, love the Lord, love kids, are drop-dead gorgeous, help with the housework, and have a strong romantic streak.
She is so tempted to stay, but she goes to the sixth floor and the sign reads:
Floor 6 – You are visitor 4,363,012 to this floor. There are no men on this floor. This floor exists solely as proof that women are impossible to please.
Thank you for shopping at the Husband Store. Watch your step as you exit the building, and have a nice day!
Well, while I do not entirely disagree with the note that some girls are choosy to the point of missing on really good men, I think now I know better. The urge to go up the floor is really strong. The first floor seems to have the basic irreducible minimum that every girl should consider. While the other floors have good things in them, some of them are built over time — well, maybe except the drop-dead gorgeous part. You either are or you aren’t!
When the world looks at a single girl today, especially a successful one, people can’t help but give reasons why you are single and those reasons are not always good ones. They never take time to ask her what her life has been like or even to know if she wants to get married in the first place! While it is a really awesome thing to be married, there is nothing that makes the unmarried lesser human beings! Even the governor of central Bank is single, if we can forgive the grief we gave him about it!
Just the other day, a friend told us how she was connected to eligible men countless times by some ‘well-meaning friends’. One of the people she was supposed to marry was too old for her liking and so closed up he barely said a word to her anytime they were together. She finally had to let the ‘concerned’ friends know that she is fine being single and she can get a husband all by herself, thank you!
I strongly believe that God has planned our lives very differently and it is wrong to assume that someone needs to be married at a certain age just because you were! I know of a lady who had reached that age where people had started saying the only person who can marry her is a widower. Well, they couldn’t have been so wrong! She met a single man, never been married before, he was as Godly as they come too. They had a glorious wedding and now they have a beautiful family, even crowned with a healthy beautiful baby.
It is very important that ladies be open to love. Some of us still cling to deep feelings of hatred and even fear brought about by some sour experiences with life. And men too! One very important thing to remember is, not all men are the same. And not all ladies are the same. There still are good men out there, and there still are good women out there. You just need to look for them in the right places.
It is also paramount to remember that God has mapped out our lives very differently. There is nothing wrong with you if your friends and age mates have all gotten married. They are in no way more special than you and my marriage will not necessarily be any better than yours because I got married first! I will not be more married than you when you finally get married because I got married first! God is not so boring as to photocopy my experience in 1000 other ladies!
So, wait on God. Do not despair and serve him while you are at it. I have noted keenly that all the people got appointed to serve him, he chose them while they were going about their lives busy in whatever fields they had interest in! Elisha was ploughing, Moses was herding, Peter was fishing, even Ruth was gathering left-overs in Boaz’s field!
The Lord has not forgotten anyone. The only reason you are single today, is because God wants you to be! Enjoy it, it’ll never come back!